Unhelathy Relationships

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Pastor Top is bi-vocational pastor of Little Oak Baptist Church somewhere in a rural area.

It seemed to Top most folks were upset about something. At work the men seemed to bicker about everything. Top was accused of favoritism, sending people home from work, and not praying equally for all workers and their families. At least he wasn’t in trouble for praying. Society as a whole seemed to be set on an antagonistic mindset. The nation seemed divided politically and this is affecting every fiber of society.
The church didn’t seem to be doing much better. Folks in several churches seemed out of sorts, families were often struggling with their personal relationships bringing harsh feelings into the church. Folks were divided over the prior election and the movie the Shack. Top knew this isn’t what Jesus had in mind for his follower’s behavior. Jesus said In John 13:34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”
Jesus tells us plainly how we love people is an indicator of our relationship with Christ. He went on to say everyone will know of our faith by how you love people. Top knew he must find a way to love people and communicate a depth of love that only Christ could give. Top knew his love demonstration had to begin at home and work. How do you love construction workers? Simple you show them you care. Coffee and doughnuts were not the answer. Caring for people meant caring for their family and learning what was going on in their families. Top was the pastor of the church yet he had to become the Pastor of the Job Site. Serving the church family Top would need to lead them to love each other by loving the folks more than ever. To really love people he would need to rise above the petty complaints and griping. He would need to challenge people to find ways to love those folks God put around them. Next he would set a positive example by living out Hebrews 3:13 But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called “Today,” so that none of you may be hardened by sin’s deceitfulness.
Encouragement was so easy it became hard for people. Generally speaking folks had fallen into a mindset that complaining was chosen over encouragement. Top knew the secret to overcoming complaining was found in Jesus teaching in John 13. Love as Jesus loved. Jesus put aside his life, feelings, time, and energy to show people how he loved them. Very rarely did he appear angry. He didn’t seem to complain yet he warned his followers not to become hateful, bitter, and look down on others. In fact Jesus warned all of us not to think more of ourselves than others. That could be at the root of complaining. Love one another as I have loved you were the words of Jesus. Love others sacrificially putting their feelings ahead of mine. Love others so they will see Jesus in me. Love those which use me for their own agenda. Love until it becomes a life habit.
Top was beginning to realize he too had fallen into the habit of criticism and complaining being his first response. He was challenged by Jesus to live out love.

Sharing Your Faith

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Pastor Top sat planning his sermon series for the next several weeks. He believed the Lord was leading him to lead the church to be focused on lost people. It all started with reading Matthew 4: 19 And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men. It was as he read this verse that God impressed upon him that he and the church must become fishers of men. While they were concerned about the lost and hurting it never seemed to cross into the real God felt need. When Top read the scripture he got a glimpse of Jesus really caring about people. He cared when they hurt about sick kids. He cared when men and women had relationship problems. He cared when religious leaders pushed people away from God and looked down upon them. Top could sense the God revolution coming in his heart.
The strategy was beginning to form in his mind. The first few weeks would be focused on praying for the lost. He would begin this Sunday by encouraging people to list the names of unchurched and lost people they knew. Following that the members would sign up to pray for the lost each day. They would be asked to sign up to take an hour each day to pray for the lost. If they couldn’t pray for an hour just pray as long as they could. Each day that person would pray during the same hour. Call upon the Lord that people in their area would be saved. He would also have Wednesday night prayer meeting focus on praying for the lost. He had been reading a couple of books which talked about revitalizing Wednesday night prayer meeting. The revitalization would begin this Wednesday. This would upset some people but would be worth it.
The second part of his Evangelism Strategy would be teaching people how to share their faith. He would begin on Sunday night’s telling people how to share write and share their personal testimony. Not the usual Sunday night church but it was a time when many people gathered. Following the writing of the testimony sessions he would walk them through marking their Bible and use the video series Share Jesus Without Fear.
The next phase of his evangelism strategy would be leading up to Easter. Beginning three weeks before Easter the church members would go door to door in the large area around the rural church handing out invitations to be a part of Easter worship. The church had also agreed to pay half the cost of mailing to each home in the area a similar invitation. IBSA would be handling the rest of the cost. The follow up after Easter would be a key to touching the lives of people in the area. Folks had to sense that the church cared for them. The personal touch and direct mail invitation was a good start.
Top was excited about the future of Little Oak Baptist Church. The minor changes of the next few weeks would rock the boat at Little Oak. Yet Top believed that Little Oak had to begin to look outside the walls of the church. He could sense that the church while loving was more in touch with loving each other than those outside the walls. This was a common challenge to many pastors and churches. Yet God intended for the people to be fishers of men. That is what he called us to be. Top would continue to pray as he implemented his strategy. God was begging to move at Little Oak.

Ministerial Low Self Esteem

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Pastor Top was deep in thought when his teenage daughter, Charla, bounced into the room. She was bubbly as usual talking about the ballgame next Friday night. She wanted to go to the 5th quarter after the ballgame. A few churches were having a dodge ball night after the home basketball game. She was excited. Top was very willing for her to go. The churches were doing a great thing providing an activity for kids. Charla left the room and Top went back to deep thought.
Top’s real thoughts were about a pastor friend. His friend Glenn was feeling very down. Like Top he was a bi-vocational pastor. He worked a job, pastored his church, and was a dad and husband. He was reaching the point as a servant of the Lord that ……he felt he wasn’t a very good servant. It began when Sally was suffering with cancer. She was hurting and helpless. Glenn had been visiting and caring for the family. He loved them and they lover Glenn. Sally died and Glenn did her funeral. Glenn still visited her family, husband and adult children. Glenn was at a loss of what to say to them. He had no formal training; he was wondering if someone else would be a better pastor. Glenn also doubted his preaching ability. Recently some of the members had become enthralled with one of the TV preachers. They talked about him at church. He was smart, funny, and had a great show. Glenn was thinking his people were tired of him. His people wanted someone different. Glenn was beginning to have a large pity party. Top knew he was suffering from a bout of ministerial low self- esteem. Top had been through this himself.
Bi-vocational minsters often went through this. It may start with a ministry experience that was tough. It may also begin with being compared to another preacher. The preacher didn’t have to be a potential pastor; he could be a TV preacher. The bi-vocational minister then would start thinking about his lack of formal education. He was at a disadvantage in preaching and ministry compared to most full time ministers. His lack of training accentuated his feelings of low worth. These were all lies of the devil. Satan wanted to trip up the servants. Satan can disqualify a servant many ways. Moral failure, personality problems at church, challenges at home or work, or low ministerial esteem. Actually the before mentioned issues can affect both full time and bi-vocational ministers. Bi-Vo ministers were more apt to suffer from low ministerial esteem.
The antidote for ministerial low self-esteem is a bit different than for personality based esteem. Top had reviewed his call to ministry as a first step to regain his sense of God worth. He recalled how God had stirred his heart creating restlessness in his soul. Top had become the most active volunteer in the church finally coming to a meeting with the Lord understanding what God had wanted him to do. The Lord wanted Top to be a Pastor. Top also felt the Lord wanted him to serve bi-vocationally. As Top answered God’s call he knew his family and he would be pulled in many directions. They would also be fulfilling their role in the Kingdom of God. Another way to combat ministerial low self- esteem involved the church. Most churches have some folks which are encouraging, genuinely encouraging. These were the voices Top and other pastors could rely on to provide an honest point of reference for good work. Top like others needed to hear and retain the honest words of affirmation and encouragement. These words on down days could lift the spirits. A third remedy for battling esteem issues was that of self-improvement. It was ok and maybe natural to get down on oneself or maybe by honest assessment come to grips with the reality of self-assessment. Top had reached the conclusion he needed a better grasp of Biblical knowledge and facts. His Association offered Seminary Extension and he had found on line courses in Biblical studies. Top had chosen Seminary extension and the study of Hebrews. A fellow pastor taught the course. He treated all ministers as peers regardless of church size or background. Top learned allot about Hebrews but sitting with other pastors he learned they each had many of the same challenges regardless of church size and background. People were about the same in each church.
Top was meeting with Glenn later today. He would share his journey. Prayerfully he hoped that Glenn wouldn’t give up but be renewed.

Getting to be an OUTIE

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Pastor Top is bi-vocational pastor of Little Oak Baptist Church somewhere in a rural area.
Top was looking forward to the rest of the year at Little Oak. The next few months the leaders of the church had planned two outreach events and one community ministry project. Top felt that the folks at Little Oak were turning a corner by looking outside the church. The church had a good reputation for helping others in need. The past several years the folks at church had gradually turned inward. They were helpful at times to others yet predominately thought of themselves first and others second. It was an effort of prayer and Bible Study to begin to look outward. There had been tearful prayer meetings of thoughtful confession. It began when Bert, the oldest and most respected Deacon, had stood one night and prayed a prayer of confession that he had been self-centered as a believer and leader of the church. He was more concerned with the people in the church and their comfort than the lost people that lived around Little Oak. That simple prayer of confession had opened the hearts of people to the renewed attitude of Christ alive within them. The journey had been several months of praying, studying, hearing people’s hearts. There had been resistance as a few people struggled to see the difference between looking outward as a church and looking inward. God was opening hearts and eyes. People were becoming more alive in Christ as they began to see the enormity of the task to share the Gospel with 7000 people around Little Oak. Most of the folks around Little Oak lived on farms or on small acreages. It was a challenge to get connected. Yet folks knew each other and cared about each other in the area. How great is our God to provide a savior and entrust his followers with the message of Christ. We must be sharing about Christ.
The first outreach event for Little Oak was a Halloween Festival on the Sunday Night before Halloween. The planning of this event had evoked spirited discussion. Why Sunday night? Cancel church? God surely couldn’t bless something like this. Yet the young adults of the church had led in the planning of this event and were involving about all the regular attenders somehow. There would be food, games, and kids were welcome to dress in their Halloween costumes and come to church. All who came would register for door prizes. A simple form with name and email address or phone number asked for just enough information to be able to stay in touch for the future. The names from Halloween would be used as contact list for the Christmas Eve outreach event. The ministry event was a work in progress for the end of November. The Sunday before Thanksgiving the folks from Little Oak were going to take Sunday afternoon and go to as many homes as possible and simply pray for people. The church members would go to a home, introduce themselves, and ask for prayer concerns. Following that they would write them down, pray for the folks and leave. The prayer concerns would be placed on the prayer wall at church. A copy of the prayer concerns would be given to members, not the entire lists just a few concerns per church member. The Christmas Eve service was the last outreach event for the year. The Christ of the manger would be shared about with familiar Christmas Carols and Scripture. Top was working on the Gospel presentation for that night. It had to be short and simple. It would be.
Top was praying that the Lord would make each of these times fruitful for the folks outside of the church. Top was also praying that the folks at Little Oak would see the long term nature of what needed to be done. It seemed that church folks wanted a one and done church event to share the gospel where everyone in the area would come, get saved, and live happily ever after. The reality was that it would take many touches, many times of sharing the Gospel for folks to hear the good news of Jesus. Studying the life of Jesus Top realized that Jesus traveled and taught over a relatively small area. Many of the same people saw the miracles, heard the teaching, and didn’t believe the first time they heard, maybe not the tenth time they heard. Perhaps we the people of God need the attitude of Christ found in Philippians 2:5-11. Servants like Jesus served out of love and obedience regardless of results. Sharing the message was the important part of the next three months. The Lord of the harvest would take care of results.

Pastor Top: Leading His Church to Pray

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Pastor Top is bi-vocational pastor of Little Oak Baptist Church somewhere in a rural area in IL. Top was more than a little disturbed about the prayer life of both he and his church. He spent a good amount of time praying about what to preach, the folks at Little Oak, and his personal concerns yet he felt his prayer life was a bit routine. He had thought about getting up earlier yet wasn’t sure the issue was the length of his prayer yet rather the attitude of his heart. Examining the church he felt they were all in a rut. The Wednesday night prayer meeting was not well attended or prayer focused. They spent more time talking about people’s ailments than being concerned about the condition of their society.
Last week a young adult in the area committed suicide. How hopeless he must have felt to take his own life. He left a wife and child to wonder what went wrong. There were also the never ending arrests listed in the paper for drug and alcohol charges. The hopelessness of the population seemed vastly disconnected from the folks in the pew. Jesus said 10 A thief comes only to steal and to kill and to destroy. I have come so that they may have life and have it in abundance. John 10:10 (HCSB) It would seem that the thief in the form of Satan the great deceiver was stealing a life of hope from the people that lived in Top’s region. He worked with people who were hopeless. Johnny had talked with Top about his failing marriage and wondered if Top would pray for him. Top had mentioned him at prayer meeting and noticed the casual looks folks gave him. He knew personally that some of the people there had experienced divorce in the lives of their families. There were grandchildren they rarely saw, sons or daughters who struggled to make sense out of life following divorce. There was allot of hurt in the world both in the church and outside of the church.
Praying was mentioned both directly and indirectly throughout scripture. As believers we are challenged to call upon the name of the Lord to heal our land, mend our hurts, put our families back together, and be saved. The word call seems more intense than pray. Call reminded Top of when his mom would call him for supper as a child. Growing up in the country he would walk or ride his bike a great distance from home. When supper time came he could often hear his mom’s voice calling him. Should he not answer right away her voice would take on a more urgent and desperate tone. She was worried about him. Top would not describe his approach to prayer as calling upon the Lord. Many days he had no sense of concern or desperation about the plight of his people. His focus must become more urgent, God directed instead of self-directed.
Desperation was not in Top’s prayer life or the prayer life of his church. They might be more complacent or even depressed about the state of society. Top remember reading about the prayer life of Johnathan Edwards. He was very concerned about the moral decay of his community in the 1700’s. People were given to drunkenness, night walking, and carousing. Edwards began to arise early and call upon the name of the Lord for souls of his community. He wrote his friends in ministry and urged them to pray also. Following months of prayer a young woman mysteriously died in his community. Following her death he preached the sermon “Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God”. People were saved, lives transformed and along the eastern seaboard of the U.S. a great awakening broke out. The awakening followed the prayers of the people crying out to God.
Top realized his prayer life he was lacking a consistent focus on the plight of the people. He and others would pray occasionally for the lost in their area yet rarely knew their names. They would pray about the social ills yet in a critical tone. He must call upon the name of the Lord to move in salvation way in his area. Top must pray that fervently and daily. He must discover the compassion of Christ for his people. This begins with confessing his lack of concern and then grows to the point of communicating his concern to God. His prayer life was also lacking urgency in calling upon the Lord.
Jesus pointed out in John 10:10 A thief comes only to steal and to kill and to destroy. I have come so that they may have life and have it in abundance. The abundant life promise of the Lord may be waiting on the concern of the Christina.
Will you join me in praying daily for a movement of God in our area?